I hate this whole culture of cool that is wrapped up in ‘not giving a shit’. I hate that for so many people around my age the pinnacle of ‘coolness’ (whatever coolness is, who even knows to be honest) is about how much you can not care about stuff. Coolness that is wrapped in things like not giving shit about Daniel Tosh’s rape joke, or not giving a shit about whether or not it’s okay for white girls to appropriate other cultures, or not giving a shit about Caitlin Moran’s racism or just generally not giving a shit about whether or not the words you use might be offensive to somebody.
I can’t understand this idea of ’Oh wow, it’s so cool that you don’t give a shit about whether you’re racist or sexist or otherwise offensive.’ This idea that caring about not being an offensive dickhead is just so uncool, that educating yourself is so uncool, that caring about trying to be a good person is so uncool. Being an ignorant, racist/sexist/homophobe is just so much cooler, not giving a shit about how you make other people feel is just so much cooler. Being offensive is so edgy and funny. Knowing that something is offensive but not caring is just so awesome. I can’t understand the way that people who are really caught up in this ‘coolness’ like to write off those of us who do genuinely care about these issues as ‘feminist killjoys’ and ‘PC police’. I don’t care about these issues because it gives me some feeling of moral superiority over those who don’t; I care about these issues because they either affect me directly or because I know people who are directly affected and hurt by these things. I care about these issues because I genuinely believe that they are important and that they matter.
I am the uncoolest guy ever because I think compassion, empathy and trying your best to be a good person are important. I think critical thought, examining and checking privilege, and interrupting whiteness are important. I think intersectional feminism is important. I think that words mean things and that we should all choose our words carefully and do our best to stop using hurtful or offensive terms in every day speech. I think that as bloggers with fairly large audiences it is our obligation to do all that we can to make sure our posts, outfits, and comments are not offensive or hurtful to our readers. I don’t think that fashion blogs or fashion bloggers are exempt from engaging in these discussions just because they may not directly fit into the usual blog post topics. I think it’s important to hold other bloggers accountable for their words and actions and not to just ignore bad behaviour because you think somebody is ‘cool’. I feel like as human beings and as adults it is our responsibility to think about how our actions and words (both on and offline) will make other people feel and to do our very best not to be hurtful. This goes for racism, misogyny, ableism, homophobia, heteronormativity, classism etc. I do give a shit about these things, I really give a shit and I wish more other people did too.